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“It is fantastic, and I love it!...This book…is a tour de force and a highly charming read….The book is written for a broad audience and would be readily appreciated by any layperson, friend, colleague, or patient. In addition to being an excellent review of the phenomenon of regrets, it is also a distillation of Leahy’s unmatched knowledge of cognitive behavior therapy. It presents a theory that is modern, integrative, and, most importantly, full of heart….My favorite part of the book is that while it is educative, it is also focused on taking action and making change….This book would be helpful both for people who are currently having difficulty making decisions for fear of regret or individuals who are struggling with challenges related to past regrets. I can already think of several folks in my caseload who would benefit from this book, and I am so happy that Leahy wrote it. I would highly recommend this book, definitely check it out.”

—Advances in Cognitive Therapy Newsletter


“Our culture tells us to idolize those who live with no regrets, but we might as well celebrate those who put their fingers in their ears! We cannot learn from the past without facing our mistakes. This wise and well-written book will help you do exactly that—without getting tangled up in 'woulda, coulda, shoulda.'”

—Steven C. Hayes, PhD, author of A Liberated Mind


“Dr. Leahy took me on a sensitive and detailed exploration of my own regrets, hesitations, and difficulties with making decisions and evaluating risks. He shows how to liberate yourself from negativity and turn it into energy for growth. A thoroughly enjoyable book, laced with humor and very useful. I will refer back to it often.”

—David F., Dover-Foxcroft, Maine


“Regret can defeat us—or it can be a platform for increasing courage, wisdom, and self-acceptance. In this easy-to-understand book, one of the world’s leading cognitive therapists skillfully guides us to come to terms with the setbacks and disappointments of life. Dr. Leahy combines his vast clinical experience with many clarifying examples. You won't regret reading this book!”

—Paul Gilbert, PhD, FBPsS, OBE, author of The Compassionate Mind


“This book is for you if you are haunted by regrets that keep you awake at night. Dr. Leahy helps you stop beating yourself up. Instead, he encourages you to make amends in the present and act differently in the future. I have found this book so helpful!”

—Martin S., Oakland, California


“Internationally acclaimed psychologist Robert Leahy unravels the mysteries of one of the most common—yet least understood—emotions. This book is uniquely innovative, insightful, clearheaded, and comprehensible. It is packed with examples and practical guidance that can transform regret from a debilitating state to a productive way of living.”

—David A. Clark, PhD, coauthor of The Anxiety and Worry Workbook


“All too often, regret leads us down a negative spiral of thoughts and emotions. In this inviting book, Dr. Leahy presents strategies to use regret as a force for problem solving and change, rather than letting it disrupt your life.”

—Patricia A. Resick, PhD, ABPP, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, Duke University


“Dr. Leahy has done it again! This superb book provides answers to important questions. How do we deal with past decisions that come back to haunt us? When does regret hold us back and how can it help us move forward? I highly recommend this book. It just might change your life.”

—Stefan G. Hofmann, PhD, author of The Anxiety Skills Workbook


“It is easy to oversimplify regret as a problem that only dampens our happiness. This highly readable book maps out a broader story. We can’t avoid regret entirely, but we can change the way we think about it. Dr. Leahy illuminates how regret comes about, how we can gain some control over it, and even how to harness it as a tool for learning and growth. Everybody has regrets—and everybody will find something useful in this book.”

—George A. Bonanno, PhD, author of The End of Trauma


“We all find ourselves, at one time or another, experiencing regret. Too often, regret traps us in destructive self-loathing and cycles of rumination about 'what might have been.' Grounded in science, this brilliant book guides us on how regret can be a valuable tool for personal growth. Dr. Leahy, a psychologist and renowned author, weaves his extensive clinical experience with the science to gently and skillfully guide us through how we get stuck in regret and how to unstick ourselves. This wonderful guide, rich with real-life examples, is an invaluable resource for us all.”

—Allison G. Harvey, PhD, Department of Psychology, University of California, Berkeley


“Dr. Leahy is a master clinician, and it shows. His writing on this timeless topic is both illuminating and useful. This book is not only a practical go-to for those struggling with regret, it is also a sage guide to life's problems in general.”

—Thomas E. Joiner, PhD, The Robert O. Lawton Distinguished Professor of Psychology, Florida State University