“One virtue of the book is its utter realism....Offers a slew of tools that couples can use to reconcile their differences without the help of a therapist.”

—The New York Times (on the first edition)


“Packed with data, wisdom, and common sense.”

—Milwaukee Journal Sentinel (on the first edition)


“Gives several guides to building acceptance.”

—USA Today (on the first edition)


“An excellent book with much to offer about a well researched and well thought out application for couple therapy.”

—Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy (on the first edition)


“This deceptively simple book can change lives. You and your partner will learn numerous ways to accept each other and achieve a new level of happiness and comfort in your relationship. The genius of the book is that these techniques are not difficult, and they can help put an end to perpetual conflict.”

—Pepper Schwartz, PhD, coauthor of The Normal Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples and What They Reveal about Creating a New Normal in Your Relationship


“No matter how many books you have read to improve your relationship, read this one, and follow the research-based principles it presents! The authors are internationally known scientists who have produced a book that all couples need to read. It's not the differences between you and your partner that matter, but how you handle them, and this book shows exactly how and why.”

—Howard J. Markman, PhD, coauthor of Fighting for Your Marriage


“There are lots of books for couples that make interesting reading, and some that provide specific, doable suggestions for improving your relationship, but just a handful—including this one—based on principles that have been scientifically shown to work. Any couple that wants to better understand and overcome problems in their relationship will find this book a great place to start.”

—W. Kim Halford, PhD, School of Psychology, University of Queensland, Australia