“Dr. Cordova provides heartfelt guidance for the challenges of honoring ourselves and another in meaningful, intertwined lives. The useful exercises and examples throughout the book will deepen your learning. I highly recommend this book for any couple, whether you are struggling or not. There is wisdom for all of us here.”

—Lizabeth Roemer, PhD, Department of Psychology, University of Massachusetts Boston


“Dr. Cordova is a skilled therapist with a particular gift for imagery that gets to the heart of common relationship struggles. This book invites couples to turn toward each other for comfort and closeness, even when stress or hurt feelings get in the way. Dr. Cordova outlines mindfulness practices that can help you create a deeper, richer, more resilient relationship.”

—Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, coauthor of Getting Past the Affair, Second Edition


“This book came into my life at just the right time. Being guided with actionable scripts and the tools to find solutions has made me feel immensely supported. I was surprised to discover that, with vulnerability and a bit of humor, simply identifying our relationship patterns (mountains and molehills here) eases friction in moments of conflict, and is helping me and my partner find deeper trust and connection.”

—Dominique H., Denver


“Dr. Cordova borrows from attachment theory and the ancient practice of mindfulness meditation to provide a new look at couple relationships. He describes how intimacy can be damaged in the rough and tumble of our daily lives, and shows a path toward repairing it. I firmly believe that following the strategies in this book with your partner can help you experience greater connection.”

—Andrew Christensen, PhD, coauthor of Reconcilable Differences, Second Edition


“From being mindful of our daily actions and listening deeply to each other, to understanding our differing styles of attachment, it’s hard to imagine ever floundering in our relationship again when these meaningful words and pointed guidance are sitting on our bookshelf.”

—Nicole D., Worcester, Massachusetts